1. The Body Safety Technique.
Negative judgements and comments about our body from the mother makes us develop a negative body image issues.
Stand in front of a mirror every morning for 30 days and say “I accept my body and feel safe within it”. 30 days is better than nothing.
2. Inner Child Letter Technique;
The disappoinment we carry from childhood still haunt us to adulthood. We let go, forgive and accept. Our mothers tried their best with all they had. They couldn’t provide or give what was given to them.
Write a letter from your inner child to mom letting her know what you wish she could have done for you or how she would loved you. …This might be emotional so let all the emotions flow.
3. Judgement Interruption Technique;
Notice anytime you want to speak negatively about yourself or other women then follow it up with one thing you appreciate about yourself or other women.
4. Future Self letter- Write a letter to your future self. Write all you’re proud of about yourself, your accomplishments , what you’ve overcome and show gratitudes about moments people have been kind to you. Put it under your pillow and read it the first thing in the morning.
5. Witness your Mother neutrally.
When we were young, our mothers were heroes. We never saw them as adults who had their own unresolved traumas from the past. We never saw them as imperfect beings. Their words negative or otherwise became law… Their projected beliefs and feelings were introjected by us and their value judgement about us were accepted as effective truths. But now you have the capability to observe the mother through an adult eye. Observe how she engages with the world as a valuable feedback on what you need healing from.